Bonobo Network is a community rooted in real-world and virtual events. Learn more about our events here!
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We create three kinds of events:
Public events include workshops, classes, cuddle parties, and lectures that are created by Bonobo Network or our partners that welcome participation from the general public. Our virtual festival PleasureFest is an example of a public event.
Open events are for Bonobo members and guests directly invited by Bonobo members. Details of open events such as location and how to join aren’t advertised publicly and should never be shared on public event calendars or email lists. These events are focused on connection and community-building. Examples include our happy hours, picnics, virtual mixers, Daily Angel Room, and Bonobooks book club.
Private events are for current Bonobo members only. Attendees must, without exception, have an active Bonobo Network membership, they must submit a vaccine verification form if the event is in-person, and they must have completed Bonobo’s orientation. Examples of private events include our monthly IRL parties, our quarterly virtual parties, and our annual retreat.
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
🗓️ Date: Saturday, March 30th 2025 4pm-9pm
📍 Location: Private Richmond Residence - address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY March 13th at 7pm
About this event
You asked for it and we’re offering an event that is a place to dip your toe into the sensual without being thrown into the deep end of a large party.
With limited ticket sales, a warm home environment, pants-on boundaries, and a connection based opening circle you will get the experience you’ve needed to meet others in the community, feel more confident in your consent skills, and connect with others in a sensual environment.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Bonobo Network presents: Poly Prom
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Poly Prom
🗓️ Date: Saturday, April 5th 2025 7pm-3am
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY March 13th at 7pm
Step into a night of enchantment at Poly Prom, a sex-positive celebration of love, connection, and play! Whether you’re coupled, throupled, solo, or rolling deep with your polycule, this is your chance to relive (or rewrite) prom—on your own terms!
This is Poly Prom, where everyone is royalty and no one is waiting for permission to claim their crown.
Want to be a Prom Monarch? Then be one! There’s no competition here—everyone is Poly Prom Royalty. Whether you arrive in a flowing gown, a glittering tiara, a strappy harness, or nothing at all, tonight is about celebrating you.
Whether you're here for sweet slow dances, a wild night of passion, or simply to bask in the glow of a room full of open-hearted lovers, Poly Prom is your night to shine.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
The Bonobo Meetup - April
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday April 8th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
April 19th - Bonobo Network presents: Freaky Cheeky Enchanted Shadows
May 3rd - Bonobo Network presents: MILFs, 'Staches, and Asses
May 10th - Bonobo Network presents: Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
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Freaky Cheeky Munch - April
Freaky Cheeky Munch
Bonobo gets Kinky!
Wednesday April 16th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Welcome to Freaky Cheeky’s meetup, it is a fantastic way for the community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
"Freaky Cheeky" is Bonobo’s new kink series — it's an invitation to unleash your inner kink and explore the depths of desire within Bonobo’s consent-driven community. From seasoned kinksters to curious newcomers, this event series is designed for everyone eager to dive into the world of kink in a safe and welcoming environment.
First time? Want to know what it is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people, they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Invite your Friend!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
Location
We will be meeting at Azúcar Lounge. Cocktails & Mexican-inspired street food in a lounge-like setting with dim lighting & sofas.
Azúcar Lounge
299 9th Street
San Francisco, CA 94103
Come thirsty, come curious, and get ready to kick off the ultimate kinky experience with a pre-party Munch! Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Party
April 19th - Bonobo Network presents: Freaky Cheeky Enchanted Shadows
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Bonobo Network presents: Freaky Cheeky: Enchanted Shadows
Bonobo Network presents: Freaky Cheeky: Enchanted Shadows
🗓️ Date: Saturday, April 19 2025 7pm - 2am
📍 Location: San Francisco, address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY March 27th at 7pm
About this event
Spring has sprung, but we’re taking a deliciously dark turn… in our enchanted forest, the blossoms hide a dark, seductive secret. This isn’t your typical spring fling—it's an immersive kinky playground where the vibrant renewal of spring merges with the provocative allure of the dark and decadent!
Under a canopy of ancient, gnarled trees and the silver glow of moonlight, mystical forest creatures roam. Mischievous fairies flit between shadowed clearings, lithe elves whisper secrets in the dark, and enigmatic dryads and satyrs entice you deeper into the wood. Imagine stepping into the woods as a seductive woodland nymph, a mischievous elven rogue, or even a shadowy creature of the forest. From intricate, lace-adorned pieces to daring leather ensembles, feel free to mix in elements of fairytale fantasy with modern kink aesthetics.
Wander through our enchanted trails where every twist reveals a kinky desire. The air is thick with anticipation as our exclusive lineup of Housetops promise to awaken your senses.
Embrace the dark side of spring—let the enchanted forest seduce you into a night of magical, kinky wonder.What is Freaky Cheeky
Freaky Cheeky was born out of a vision to create a space where edgy, heavy kink scenes could exist within the Bonobo container. Freaky Cheeky is a world where we explore our kinkiest desires and also intertwine them with the sex-positive, open-minded nature that defines our community. It is importance to create spaces where kink and sex can coexist in a safe, supportive, and playful environment.
Why Freaky Cheeky?
This vision was fueled by the desire to have both kink and sex as integral parts of the experience, because our community is more than just sex-positive or kink-positive—we are both! Freaky Cheeky provides the opportunity for us to push our boundaries, engage in powerful kink dynamics, and connect through shared erotic energy, all while being supported by the Bonobo ethos of consent, respect, and intentional connection.
Freaky Cheeky is not just a series of events; it’s a movement toward authentic self-expression, consent-based play, and unbridled fun. We’re here for the kink, the cheekiness, and everything in between.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: MILFs, 'Staches, and Asses
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: MILFs, 'Staches, and Asses
🗓️ Date: Saturday, May 3rd 2025 12pm-8pm
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY April 10th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
GATHER... before we Cluster* - May
Let’s Gather before we Cluster!
Tuesday, May 6th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Gather is Cluster’s meetup, it is a fantastic way for the young non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested! This event is for 40 and under, however guest over the age of 40 are welcome to join as the guest of a person under 40.
First time? Want to know what it is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Invite Your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Events:
June 28th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
September 13th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
December 6th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
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Foreplay for Kiss and Tell - May
Hey Bonobos and Friends! Let’s raise a glass before we get our groove on together!
Wednesday, May 7th, 2025 7pm-10pm
First time? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Foreplay is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
What is Kiss and Tell?
Kiss and Tell is our new quarterly second bass party – a sexy, bottoms-on dance party driven by deep bass. This is an open to everyone event, and is another great chance to introduce curious friends to Bonobo Network.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
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https://plra.io/m/kissandtell-foreplay
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
🗓️ Date: Saturday, May 10th 2025 7pm-3am
📍 Location: address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY April 17th at 7pm
About this event
They say that dance is the vertical expression of horizontal desires. Guess we'll find out just how true that is.
At Kiss and Tell, your expressions of desire may need to stay clothed – barely – but they don't have to stay vertical. Take a break from dancing to sensuously snuggle with lovers old and new.
Unlike our full play parties, tickets are available to non-Bonobo members for this event. With lower stakes and intensity, It’s the perfect way to introduce your friends who are Bonobo-curious or nervous about play parties to our community.
Just remember that the party has "second base" limits on connection, which means you’ll need to keep your panties on. We'll get you all worked up with a bevy of sensual explorations, but you'll have to take the party home to go any further.
To make sure everyone feels safe enough to play at their edges, we don't allow any physical touch without clear consent. If you can't play by the rules, you may be asked to leave the party -- and that's no fun!
This is an alcohol-free event. We encourage you to limit intoxication so you can stay tuned in to the needs, boundaries, and desires of your fellow guests.
Make sure you're up on Bonobo party etiquette by watching this video: https://youtu.be/eCtnU0SCdSA?si=xAHd7u-oKLG0HSdm
Learn more about our consent framework at https://bonobonetwork.com/consent
If you are not yet a Bonobo Network member but you’re interested in joining you can learn more about us at https://bonobonetwork.com and apply for membership at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply. By joining you'll get access to all of our play parties and members only community events.
More info coming soon...
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The Bonobo Meetup - May
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday May 13th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
We will be meeting at Azúcar Lounge. Cocktails & Mexican-inspired street food in a lounge-like setting with dim lighting & sofas.
Azúcar Lounge
299 9th Street
San Francisco, CA 94103
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
May 18th - Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
May 23rd - May 26th - Play: The Bonobo Network Retreat
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SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
🗓️ Date: Saturday, May 18th 2025 4pm-9pm
📍 Location: Private Richmond Residence - address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY May 1st at 7pm
About this event
You asked for it and we’re offering an event that is a place to dip your toe into the sensual without being thrown into the deep end of a large party.
With limited ticket sales, a warm home environment, pants-on boundaries, and a connection based opening circle you will get the experience you’ve needed to meet others in the community, feel more confident in your consent skills, and connect with others in a sensual environment.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
A Bonobo Network Retreat 2025
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A Bonobo Network Retreat 2025
Friday, May 23rd-Monday, May 26th
The Bonobo Network’s premier event of the year. Come dance, play, connect, and frolic in beautiful Tuolumne, CA four days and three nights
About this event
The Bonobo Network’s premier event of the year is returning Memorial Day Weekend 2025. This gathering is designed to have something for everyone! Enjoy four days and three nights in beautiful Tuolumne, California at Deloro Valley.
This weekend is about you. It’s about us. It’s about connecting - deeply - with our amazing community of humans over a spacious long weekend. Allow yourself to drop into unadulterated PLAY and deep CONNECTION. The Bonobo Retreat is, without a doubt, the best way to experience our community.
Here’s what you expect with your ticket:
Enjoy and commune over delicious and nourishing group meals (9 delicious and nourishing meals are provided plus midnight snacks!)
Dance our booties off into the night with tunes by incredible DJs and musicians
Have access to some of the top sex educators and sex culture creators via workshops to learn new skills and perspectives
Be able to raucously and respectfully explore one another's bodies in explosively hot play spaces throughout the weekend - both in and outside.
Plus, past years have included a variety of ways to connect and play including a talent show, grief altar, unique performances, affinity group meet-ups, pop-up dance parties, love letter mailboxes, community-created happy hours, and so much more.
Whatever you choose, this weekend is yours to create. For our ninth year, we’re excited to co-create a profound experience of sensuality, community, friendship, learning, laughter, and play.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Queergasm Meetup - June
Queergasm Meetup
Thursday June 5th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Join us for Queergasm’s social meetup! It is a fantastic way for our queer non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment.
What is Queergasm?
Queergasm is a play party produced by the Bonobo Network, by queers, for queers, and exclusively for queer people. Our mission is to create a space where queerness is not just welcomed or tolerated, but centered and celebrated.
About this Meetup
This meetup is for all queer folks: those who are planning on attending an upcoming Queergasm party, those who are curious and considering attending, and for newbies just to meet our community.
First time? Want to know what Queergasm and Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, bring some drinks or food to share, and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people, they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
This event is only for queer people. For our purposes, if you identify as queer, this meetup is for you. No one will be checking your queer card. You are queer enough. If you are questioning or exploring if you might be queer or fall somewhere under the LGBTQ+ umbrella, you are welcome.
Location:
We will be meeting at Mad Oak Bar. A neighborhood bar in Oakland with lots of outdoor seating both roof top and ground floor.
Mad Oak Bar
135 12TH STREET,
OAKLAND, CA, 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite a Friend!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Events
October 10th - Queergasm (Theme TBA)
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The Bonobo Meetup - June
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday June 10th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
Location coming soon! We're switching it up and hosting a few meetups in different locations this year. We're currently confirming reservations—stay tuned for details!
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
June 21st - Bonobo Network presents: Solstice
June 28th - Cluster*
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SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Soulstice
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Soulstice
🗓️ Date: Saturday, June 21st 2025 12pm-8pm
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY May 29th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
SAVE THE DATE: Cluster* presents Pantheon
SAVE THE DATE: Cluster* presents Pantheon
🗓️ Date: Saturday, June 28th 2025 12pm-8pm
📍 Location: address released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY June 6th at 7pm
What is Cluster
Created in collaboration with the Bonobo Network, Cluster* is our experimental testbed event that blends immersive art and sexuality together for the young non-monogamous community. Cluster is designed to be an immersive experience and party that you can play at, not itself a party focused on play.
Cluster* age policy clarification:
If you are under the age of 40, you are good to go!
Guests over the age of 40 are welcome to join if they are the guest of a person under the age of 40.
Key leadership team members of the Bonobo Network may be over the age of 40.
This is a permeable boundary: No set of rules encompasses all situations. If you think you should be at a party for the young non-monogamous community, please reach out to us (cluster@bonobonetwork.com)
To contact Cluster Producers please email: cluster@bonobonetwork.com
More info coming soon...
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
The Bonobo Meetup - July
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday July 8th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
July 19th - Bonobo Network Presents: 15th Anniversary & WW3 Birthday
July 26th - Bonobo Network Presents: Freaky Cheeky (Theme TBA)
July 27th - Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
August 8th - Bonobo Network Presents: Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
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SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: 15th Anniversary & WW3 Birthday
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: 15th Anniversary & WW3 Birthday
🗓️ Date: Saturday, July 19th 2025 ? - ?
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY June 26th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Freaky Cheeky Munch - July
Freaky Cheeky Munch
Bonobo gets Kinky!
Wednesday July 23rd, 2025 7pm-10pm
Welcome to Freaky Cheeky’s meetup, it is a fantastic way for the community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
"Freaky Cheeky" is Bonobo’s new kink series — it's an invitation to unleash your inner kink and explore the depths of desire within Bonobo’s consent-driven community. From seasoned kinksters to curious newcomers, this event series is designed for everyone eager to dive into the world of kink in a safe and welcoming environment.
First time? Want to know what it is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people, they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Invite your Friend!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
Location
We will be meeting at Azúcar Lounge. Cocktails & Mexican-inspired street food in a lounge-like setting with dim lighting & sofas.
Azúcar Lounge
299 9th Street
San Francisco, CA 94103
Come thirsty, come curious, and get ready to kick off the ultimate kinky experience with a pre-party Munch! Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Party
July 26th - Bonobo Network presents: Freaky Cheeky (Theme TBA)
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SAVE THE DATE: Freaky Cheeky presents: Theme TBA
SAVE THE DATE: Freaky Cheeky presents: Theme TBA
🗓️ Date: Saturday, July 26 2025 7pm - 2am
📍 Location: address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY July 3rd at 7pm
What is Freaky Cheeky
Freaky Cheeky was born out of a vision to create a space where edgy, heavy kink scenes could exist within the Bonobo container. Freaky Cheeky is a world where we explore our kinkiest desires and also intertwine them with the sex-positive, open-minded nature that defines our community. It is importance to create spaces where kink and sex can coexist in a safe, supportive, and playful environment.
Why Freaky Cheeky?
This vision was fueled by the desire to have both kink and sex as integral parts of the experience, because our community is more than just sex-positive or kink-positive—we are both! Freaky Cheeky provides the opportunity for us to push our boundaries, engage in powerful kink dynamics, and connect through shared erotic energy, all while being supported by the Bonobo ethos of consent, respect, and intentional connection.
Freaky Cheeky is not just a series of events; it’s a movement toward authentic self-expression, consent-based play, and unbridled fun. We’re here for the kink, the cheekiness, and everything in between.
More Details coming soon...
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
🗓️ Date: Saturday, July 27th 2025 4pm-9pm
📍 Location: Private Richmond Residence - address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY May 1st at 7pm
About this event
You asked for it and we’re offering an event that is a place to dip your toe into the sensual without being thrown into the deep end of a large party.
With limited ticket sales, a warm home environment, pants-on boundaries, and a connection based opening circle you will get the experience you’ve needed to meet others in the community, feel more confident in your consent skills, and connect with others in a sensual environment.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Foreplay for Kiss and Tell - July
Hey Bonobos and Friends! Let’s raise a glass before we get our groove on together!
Wednesday, July 30th, 2025 7pm-10pm
First time? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Foreplay is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
What is Kiss and Tell?
Kiss and Tell is our new quarterly second bass party – a sexy, bottoms-on dance party driven by deep bass. This is an open to everyone event, and is another great chance to introduce curious friends to Bonobo Network.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
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https://plra.io/m/kissandtell-foreplay-073025
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
🗓️ Date: Saturday, August 2nd, 2025 2025 7pm-3am
📍 Location: address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY July 10th at 7pm
About this event
They say that dance is the vertical expression of horizontal desires. Guess we'll find out just how true that is.
At Kiss and Tell, your expressions of desire may need to stay clothed – barely – but they don't have to stay vertical. Take a break from dancing to sensuously snuggle with lovers old and new.
Unlike our full play parties, tickets are available to non-Bonobo members for this event. With lower stakes and intensity, It’s the perfect way to introduce your friends who are Bonobo-curious or nervous about play parties to our community.
Just remember that the party has "second base" limits on connection, which means you’ll need to keep your panties on. We'll get you all worked up with a bevy of sensual explorations, but you'll have to take the party home to go any further.
To make sure everyone feels safe enough to play at their edges, we don't allow any physical touch without clear consent. If you can't play by the rules, you may be asked to leave the party -- and that's no fun!
This is an alcohol-free event. We encourage you to limit intoxication so you can stay tuned in to the needs, boundaries, and desires of your fellow guests.
Make sure you're up on Bonobo party etiquette by watching this video: https://youtu.be/eCtnU0SCdSA?si=xAHd7u-oKLG0HSdm
Learn more about our consent framework at https://bonobonetwork.com/consent
If you are not yet a Bonobo Network member but you’re interested in joining you can learn more about us at https://bonobonetwork.com and apply for membership at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply. By joining you'll get access to all of our play parties and members only community events.
More info coming soon...
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GATHER... before we Cluster* - August
Let’s Gather before we Cluster!
Tuesday, August 5th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Gather is Cluster’s meetup, it is a fantastic way for the young non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested! This event is for 40 and under, however guest over the age of 40 are welcome to join as the guest of a person under 40.
First time? Want to know what it is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Invite Your Friend!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
Location
Location coming soon! We're switching it up and hosting a few meetups in different locations this year. We're currently confirming reservations—stay tuned for details!
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Events:
September 13th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
December 6th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
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The Bonobo Meetup - August
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday August 12th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
Location coming soon! We're switching it up and hosting a few meetups in different locations this year. We're currently confirming reservations—stay tuned for details!
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
August 16th - Bonobo Network Presents: Weird Barbie's Beach Day
September 7th - Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
Connect on Plura: https://plra.io/m/bonobo-meetup-081225
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Weird Barbie's Beach Day
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Weird Barbie's Beach Day
🗓️ Date: Saturday, August 16th 2025 12pm - 8pm
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY July 24th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Queergasm Meetup - September
Queergasm Meetup
Thursday September 4th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Join us for Queergasm’s social meetup! It is a fantastic way for our queer non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment.
What is Queergasm?
Queergasm is a play party produced by the Bonobo Network, by queers, for queers, and exclusively for queer people. Our mission is to create a space where queerness is not just welcomed or tolerated, but centered and celebrated.
About this Meetup
This meetup is for all queer folks: those who are planning on attending an upcoming Queergasm party, those who are curious and considering attending, and for newbies just to meet our community.
First time? Want to know what Queergasm and Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, bring some drinks or food to share, and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people, they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
This event is only for queer people. For our purposes, if you identify as queer, this meetup is for you. No one will be checking your queer card. You are queer enough. If you are questioning or exploring if you might be queer or fall somewhere under the LGBTQ+ umbrella, you are welcome.
Location:
We will be meeting at Mad Oak Bar. A neighborhood bar in Oakland with lots of outdoor seating both roof top and ground floor.
Mad Oak Bar
135 12TH STREET,
OAKLAND, CA, 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite a Friend!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Events
October 10th - Queergasm (Theme TBA)
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SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
🗓️ Date: Saturday, September 7th 2025 4pm-9pm
📍 Location: Private Richmond Residence - address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY August 21st at 7pm
About this event
You asked for it and we’re offering an event that is a place to dip your toe into the sensual without being thrown into the deep end of a large party.
With limited ticket sales, a warm home environment, pants-on boundaries, and a connection based opening circle you will get the experience you’ve needed to meet others in the community, feel more confident in your consent skills, and connect with others in a sensual environment.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
The Bonobo Meetup - September
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday September 9th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
September 13th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
September 20th - Bonobo Network presents: (Theme TBA)
September 27th - Bonobo Network presents: Freaky Cheeky (Theme TBA)
October 11th - Bonobo Network presents: Queergasm (Theme TBA)
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SAVE THE DATE: Cluster* presents Theme TBA
SAVE THE DATE: Cluster* presents Theme TBA
🗓️ Date: Saturday, September 13th 2025 12pm-8pm
📍 Location: address released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY August 21st at 7pm
What is Cluster
Created in collaboration with the Bonobo Network, Cluster* is our experimental testbed event that blends immersive art and sexuality together for the young non-monogamous community. Cluster is designed to be an immersive experience and party that you can play at, not itself a party focused on play.
Cluster* age policy clarification:
If you are under the age of 40, you are good to go!
Guests over the age of 40 are welcome to join if they are the guest of a person under the age of 40.
Key leadership team members of the Bonobo Network may be over the age of 40.
This is a permeable boundary: No set of rules encompasses all situations. If you think you should be at a party for the young non-monogamous community, please reach out to us (cluster@bonobonetwork.com)
To contact Cluster Producers please email: cluster@bonobonetwork.com
More info coming soon...
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Theme TBA
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Theme TBA
🗓️ Date: Saturday, September 20th 2025 12pm - 8pm
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY August 28th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Freaky Cheeky Munch - September
Freaky Cheeky Munch
Bonobo gets Kinky!
Wednesday July 23rd, 2025 7pm-10pm
Welcome to Freaky Cheeky’s meetup, it is a fantastic way for the community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
"Freaky Cheeky" is Bonobo’s new kink series — it's an invitation to unleash your inner kink and explore the depths of desire within Bonobo’s consent-driven community. From seasoned kinksters to curious newcomers, this event series is designed for everyone eager to dive into the world of kink in a safe and welcoming environment.
First time? Want to know what it is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people, they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Invite your Friend!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
Location
We will be meeting at Azúcar Lounge. Cocktails & Mexican-inspired street food in a lounge-like setting with dim lighting & sofas.
Azúcar Lounge
299 9th Street
San Francisco, CA 94103
Come thirsty, come curious, and get ready to kick off the ultimate kinky experience with a pre-party Munch! Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Party
July 26th - Bonobo Network presents: Freaky Cheeky (Theme TBA)
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SAVE THE DATE: Freaky Cheeky presents: Theme TBA
SAVE THE DATE: Freaky Cheeky presents: Theme TBA
🗓️ Date: Saturday, September 27 2025 7pm - 2am
📍 Location: address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY Setember 4th at 7pmWhat is Freaky Cheeky
Freaky Cheeky was born out of a vision to create a space where edgy, heavy kink scenes could exist within the Bonobo container. Freaky Cheeky is a world where we explore our kinkiest desires and also intertwine them with the sex-positive, open-minded nature that defines our community. It is importance to create spaces where kink and sex can coexist in a safe, supportive, and playful environment.
Why Freaky Cheeky?
This vision was fueled by the desire to have both kink and sex as integral parts of the experience, because our community is more than just sex-positive or kink-positive—we are both! Freaky Cheeky provides the opportunity for us to push our boundaries, engage in powerful kink dynamics, and connect through shared erotic energy, all while being supported by the Bonobo ethos of consent, respect, and intentional connection.
Freaky Cheeky is not just a series of events; it’s a movement toward authentic self-expression, consent-based play, and unbridled fun. We’re here for the kink, the cheekiness, and everything in between.
More Details coming soon...
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
The Bonobo Meetup - October
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday October 14th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
Location coming soon! We're switching it up and hosting a few meetups in SF this time. We're currently confirming reservations—stay tuned for details!
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
October 18th - Bonobo Network presents: Stranger Things
November 4th - Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
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SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Stranger Things
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Stranger Things
🗓️ Date: Saturday, October 18th 2025 7pm-3am
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY September 25th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents: Glow ~ Slow, Sensual, Small
🗓️ Date: Saturday, November 2nd 2025 4pm-9pm
📍 Location: Private Richmond Residence - address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY October 16th at 7pm
About this event
You asked for it and we’re offering an event that is a place to dip your toe into the sensual without being thrown into the deep end of a large party.
With limited ticket sales, a warm home environment, pants-on boundaries, and a connection based opening circle you will get the experience you’ve needed to meet others in the community, feel more confident in your consent skills, and connect with others in a sensual environment.
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
GATHER... before we Cluster* - November
Let’s Gather before we Cluster!
Tuesday, November 4th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Gather is Cluster’s meetup, it is a fantastic way for the young non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested! This event is for 40 and under, however guest over the age of 40 are welcome to join as the guest of a person under 40.
First time? Want to know what it is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: they want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Events:
December 6th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
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The Bonobo Meetup - November
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday November 11th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
November 22nd - Bonobo Network presents: Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
November 28th - Bonobo Network presents: Spanksgiving|
December 7th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
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Foreplay for Kiss and Tell - November
Hey Bonobos and Friends! Let’s raise a glass before we get our groove on together!
Wednesday, November 19th, 2025 7pm-10pm
First time? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Foreplay is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
What is Kiss and Tell?
Kiss and Tell is our new quarterly second bass party – a sexy, bottoms-on dance party driven by deep bass. This is an open to everyone event, and is another great chance to introduce curious friends to Bonobo Network.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Connect on Plura
https://plra.io/m/kissandtell-forepla-111925
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network Presents Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
🗓️ Date: Saturday, November 22nd, 2025 2025 7pm-3am
📍 Location: address will be released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY October 30th at 7pm
About this event
They say that dance is the vertical expression of horizontal desires. Guess we'll find out just how true that is.
At Kiss and Tell, your expressions of desire may need to stay clothed – barely – but they don't have to stay vertical. Take a break from dancing to sensuously snuggle with lovers old and new.
Unlike our full play parties, tickets are available to non-Bonobo members for this event. With lower stakes and intensity, It’s the perfect way to introduce your friends who are Bonobo-curious or nervous about play parties to our community.
Just remember that the party has "second base" limits on connection, which means you’ll need to keep your panties on. We'll get you all worked up with a bevy of sensual explorations, but you'll have to take the party home to go any further.
To make sure everyone feels safe enough to play at their edges, we don't allow any physical touch without clear consent. If you can't play by the rules, you may be asked to leave the party -- and that's no fun!
This is an alcohol-free event. We encourage you to limit intoxication so you can stay tuned in to the needs, boundaries, and desires of your fellow guests.
Make sure you're up on Bonobo party etiquette by watching this video: https://youtu.be/eCtnU0SCdSA?si=xAHd7u-oKLG0HSdm
Learn more about our consent framework at https://bonobonetwork.com/consent
If you are not yet a Bonobo Network member but you’re interested in joining you can learn more about us at https://bonobonetwork.com and apply for membership at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply. By joining you'll get access to all of our play parties and members only community events.
More info coming soon...
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SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Spanksgiving
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: Spanksgiving
🗓️ Date: Saturday, November 28th 2025 7pm - 3am
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY November 6th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Queergasm Meetup - December
Queergasm Meetup
Tuesday December 2nd, 2025 7pm-10pm
Join us for Queergasm’s social meetup! It is a fantastic way for our queer non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment.
The next Queergasm is Saturday, March 8th 2025!
What is Queergasm?
Queergasm is a play party produced by the Bonobo Network, by queers, for queers, and exclusively for queer people. Our mission is to create a space where queerness is not just welcomed or tolerated, but centered and celebrated.
About this Meetup
This meetup is for all queer folks: those who are planning on attending an upcoming Queergasm party, those who are curious and considering attending, and for newbies just to meet our community.
First time? Want to know what Queergasm and Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, bring some drinks or food to share, and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people, they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
This event is only for queer people. For our purposes, if you identify as queer, this meetup is for you. No one will be checking your queer card. You are queer enough. If you are questioning or exploring if you might be queer or fall somewhere under the LGBTQ+ umbrella, you are welcome.
Location:
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St,
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your Friend!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Upcoming Events
Join us next year in 2026!
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SAVE THE DATE: Cluster* presents Theme TBA
SAVE THE DATE: Cluster* presents Theme TBA
🗓️ Date: Saturday, December 6th 2025 12pm-8pm
📍 Location: address released to ticket holders
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY November 13th at 7pm
What is Cluster
Created in collaboration with the Bonobo Network, Cluster* is our experimental testbed event that blends immersive art and sexuality together for the young non-monogamous community. Cluster is designed to be an immersive experience and party that you can play at, not itself a party focused on play.
Cluster* age policy clarification:
If you are under the age of 40, you are good to go!
Guests over the age of 40 are welcome to join if they are the guest of a person under the age of 40.
Key leadership team members of the Bonobo Network may be over the age of 40.
This is a permeable boundary: No set of rules encompasses all situations. If you think you should be at a party for the young non-monogamous community, please reach out to us (cluster@bonobonetwork.com)
To contact Cluster Producers please email: cluster@bonobonetwork.com
More info coming soon...
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
The Bonobo Meetup - December
The Bonobo Meetup
Tuesday November 11th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Location
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland
827 Washington St
Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Invite your friends!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
UPCOMING PARTIES:
November 22nd - Bonobo Network presents: Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
November 28th - Bonobo Network presents: Spanksgiving|
December 7th - Cluster* (Theme TBA)
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SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: You’re A Hot One, Mx. Grinch
SAVE THE DATE: Bonobo Network presents: You’re A Hot One, Mx. Grinch
🗓️ Date: Saturday, December 13th 2025 7pm - 3am
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY November 20th at 7pm
Get ready to immerse yourself in a day of connection, exploration, and play! Embrace desire, celebrate your authentic self, and revel in a space where everyone is welcome to express and connect freely. Whether you’re here to explore your fantasies, spark new connections, or simply enjoy the electrifying atmosphere, this event promises a night of consensual fun, laughter, and unforgettable moments. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and let’s create magic together! Theme coming soon!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Sunday Supper: An ENM Potluck
Sunday Supper: An ENM Potluck
Date and time: Sunday, March 23, 2025 6pm - 10pm
Location: Radiance Oak 278 4th St, Oakland, CA 94607
Bonobo Network is excited to introduce Sunday Suppers, a cozy and casual potluck series where folks all along the ENM spectrum can gather, share a meal, and build deeper connections. This is a laid back opportunity for those of us interested in nonmonogamous relationships to share our experiences, learn new perspectives, and be in community with those on a similar journey.
First time? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, Sunday Suppers is a fantastic way for non-members to get to know the Bonobo Community.
This isn’t just a social gathering. At 7:30pm, we’ll come together to have a group discussion of a topic related to navigating our nonmonogamy.
Schedule
6:00 PM Doors open
7:30 PM Group Discussion
8:15 PM Return to freeform socializing
10:00 PM Party’s over! Strike begins.
What to bring:
Food and/or beverages to share. This event is a dinnertime potluck. Please come with ingredients on food you prepare labeled or be prepared to do so using our index cards.
Parking:
There is abundant parking near the venue. We encourage carpools! Break-ins are known to happen, leave NOTHING of value in your vehicle.
Covid:
California is in the midst of a large and ongoing covid surge, which means covid is everywhere. Please don’t attend if you have symptoms of illness. We highly recommend taking a covid test before you attend. The space will have multiple air filters running to reduce covid transmission risk, but you attend this event at your own risk.
Ground Rules:
1. Not a cruising space: While shared attraction is often on the table at ENM events, this space is not for aggressive cruising.
2. This is not a sexual space. No sexual activity is allowed here.
3. Children will be allowed at some events depending on the topic of discussion. We understand that childcare costs can make getting out to socialize harder. However, the presence of children may sometimes prevent adults from fully speaking to their experiences. For slightly spicier discussions, we won’t allow kids to attend, and you bring your kids at the risk of their hearing extraordinarily adult conversation.
4. Behave consensually. Don’t touch folks unless there’s shared agreement to do so.
5. Come with an open mind. Don’t shame people for their agreements, style of ENM, or sexual practices.
6. Organizers reserve the right to refuse entry to anyone for any reason.
Connect on Plura (FKA Bloom): https://plra.io/m/bonobo-sunday-supper-032325
Bonobo Network presents: The Ides of March
Bonobo Network presents: The Ides of March
🗓️ Date: Saturday, March 15th 2025 12pm-8pm
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
About this event
Beware the Ides of March… or better yet, indulge in it! Step into a world of decadence, desire, and divine pleasure as we transport you to an evening of Ancient Roman and Greek revelry—Bonobo style. Whether you're channeling a mighty gladiator, a sultry oracle, a mischievous satyr, or a divine deity draped in silk, this day is yours to drink, feast, and frolic like the gods, goddesses and all mythical creatures intended.
Picture this: golden sunlight streaming through draped silks, the scent of grapes and honey lingering in the air, and bodies adorned in flowing togas and Grecian garb, lounging, laughing, and longing. Whether you're drawn to the playful decadence of a feast, the whispered intrigue of an imperial court, or the passionate embrace of a forbidden tryst, this is your invitation to an afternoon where pleasure reigns supreme.
Step into the world of the ancients—where the wine flows and desires are awaken.
So don your finest toga, slip on your sandals, and prepare to embrace a day of historic hedonism. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
The Bonobo Meetup - March
The Bonobo Meetup
March 11th, 2025 7pm-10pm
Hey Bonobos and Friends!
The Bonobo Meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested in learning more about our community.
First time joining us? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know the community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland - 827 Washington St, Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Connect on Plura: https://plra.io/m/bonobo-meetup-031125
SAVE THE DATE: Queergasm💦 Theme TBA
Queergasm presents: MasQUEERade
🗓️ Date: Saturday, March 8th 2025 7pm-3am
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY February 13th at 7pm
Lose yourself in the decadence of MasQUEERade—where mystery meets play, the beats pulse through your body, and every moment is a chance to connect.
The masks are on, the rules are off—welcome to MasQUEERade, where the night is yours to explore, entice, and indulge. This Mardi Gras-inspired queer masquerade is a celebration of desire, decadence, and deliciously masked mischief. Whether you're here to dance, flirt, or play, this is your invitation to embrace the thrill of the unknown.
What is Queergasm?
Queergasm is our ongoing party for queer folks. It's only open to queer people. That's because we want to create a space where queerness is not just welcomed or tolerated, but centered and celebrated.
For our purposes, if you identify as queer, this party is for you. No one will be checking your queer card. You are queer enough. If you are questioning or exploring if you might be queer or fall somewhere under the LGBTQ+ umbrella, you are welcome to attend Queergasm as you explore if you might identify as queer.
This party is for people with all levels of experience, from the merely curious or questioning to the most experienced swingers; from the decidedly monogamous to the most committed polyamorists. Under the umbrella of queerness, we welcome people representing every sexual preference, gender expression, and body type. None of us are getting free until we all get free.
To contact Queergasm Producers please email: Queergasm@bonobonetwork.com
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Queergasm Meetup
Queergasm Meetup
Join us for Queergasm’s social meetup! It is a fantastic way for our queer non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment.
The next Queergasm is Saturday, March 8th 2025!
What is Queergasm?
Queergasm is a play party produced by the Bonobo Network, by queers, for queers, and exclusively for queer people. Our mission is to create a space where queerness is not just welcomed or tolerated, but centered and celebrated.
About this Meetup
This meetup is for all queer folks: those who are planning on attending an upcoming Queergasm party, those who are curious and considering attending, and for newbies just to meet our community.
First time? Want to know what Queergasm and Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, bring some drinks or food to share, and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people, they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
This event is only for queer people. For our purposes, if you identify as queer, this meetup is for you. No one will be checking your queer card. You are queer enough. If you are questioning or exploring if you might be queer or fall somewhere under the LGBTQ+ umbrella, you are welcome.
Location:
We will be meeting at Mad Oak Bar. A neighborhood bar in Oakland with lots of outdoor seating both roof top and ground floor.
Mad Oak Bar - 135 12TH STREET, OAKLAND, CA, 94607 - Upstairs!
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
Want to bring a non-Bonobo friend? Great! Meetup is open to non-Bonobos. Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
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Bonobo Network presents: VIBE+ 🏹 Cupid’s Arrow 💘
Bonobo presents: VIBE+ 🏹Cupid’s Arrow 💘
🗓️ Date: Saturday, February 22nd, 2025 7pm-3am
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
GET TICKETS HERE THURSDAY JANUARY 30TH at 7PM: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bonobo-network-presents-vibe-cupids-arrow-tickets-1220398136679?aff=oddtdtcreator
Agenda
7:00 PM - 9:00 PM Doors Open
We require everyone to arrive in time for opening circle.
7:30 PM - 8:30 PM Workshop - TBA
9:00 PM - 9:30 PM Opening Circle
[NOTE: No entry after opening circle without permission from hosts. Email info@bonobonetwork.com if you think you may need to join late.]
10:00 PM - 1:00 AM DJ -TBA
1:30 AM - 2:00 AM Closing Circle
Closing Circle is a time for us to share our experience, ecstatic or hard, to be seen, known, and normalize that these events are a full spectrum experience for everyone.
»»» About this event
Welcome to the first-ever VIBE+, a BIPOC-centered and celebrated community event where we honor love, connection, and passion in all its forms! This groundbreaking party is a space for BIPOC individuals to shine, connect, and celebrate alongside their non-BIPOC partners, lovers, and community allies.
This Valentine’s Month, join us for "Cupid’s Arrow", where love knows no boundaries, colors, genders, or orientations. Let the night inspire you to explore connections that transcend societal constructs, as Cupid’s arrow strikes straight to the heart.
BIPOC attendees are welcome to invite up to 4 non-BIPOC guests using the PAL system, fostering a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere while maintaining our community’s integrity.
Get ready for an unforgettable night of celebration, connection, and unapologetic joy. This is VIBE +, where love and community thrive together.
»»» Introducing VIBE!
Hey friends,
I’m William Winters|G|he, and I’m one of the cofounders of Express Yourself. Express Yourself has been an incredible resource for Black and Brown folks exploring the joys and anxieties of sexuality in a community environment. Over the years, the folks who poured their hearts into creating the Express Yourself parties helped create some of the warmest play spaces I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing and was part of a vibrant emerging ecosystem of sex-positive events built by and for folks of color that included KPOC, SOUL, Black Kink Bay Area, and others.
Recently Express Yourself hasn’t run as frequently as had been planned at the beginning of the year. Rebecca, the remaining organizer, had changing life circumstances and insufficient logistical support to keep it going on her own.
So I’m announcing that Express Yourself is officially becoming part of Bonobo Network (which I also founded), and it’s getting a new name and new leadership while retaining some of the features that made it special. It’s still a POC-exclusive party. It still uses the PAL system, so Bonobo Network membership isn’t required. And we still expect that the parties will take place about quarterly.
Meet the new producer, Scott 🟢 ! He’s been a dedicated member of our community, volunteering and building meaningful relationships for a couple years. Now, he’s excited to curate unique party experiences for our BIPOC community. Here’s some of what he has to say about what VIBE is...
»»» What is VIBE
Welcome to VIBE, a reimagined experience designed to create a space of celebration. VIBE stands for Versatile Inclusion, Bold Expressions, embodying a space where diversity thrives, creativity flourishes, and every voice is heard.
Versatile Inclusion: At VIBE, we embrace the rich tapestry of cultures, identities, and experiences that people of color bring to the table. Our events are crafted to be inclusive and welcoming, ensuring that everyone feels seen, valued, and respected. Whether you’re here to dance, connect, or simply be yourself, VIBE is your space to shine.
Bold Expressions: VIBE is all about celebrating the unique and powerful ways BIPOC express themselves. From vibrant performances and art showcases to dynamic discussions and interactive activities, our events are a platform for bold, unapologetic self-expression. We encourage you to bring your full self to the party and share your story with the world.
These exclusive parties are dedicated solely to BIPOC, providing a safe and empowering environment where folks of color can connect, celebrate, and express themselves freely.
Join us at VIBE, where every moment is an opportunity to connect, create, and celebrate the beauty of diversity. Let’s make every event a testament to the power of Versatile Inclusion and Bold Expressions.
For our purposes, we define "person of color" as people who have lived experiences as a racial minority in the United States. At least one birth parent was perceived and treated as a person of color, or would have been were they in the United States.
This party is for people with all levels of experience, from the merely curious or questioning to the most experienced swingers; from the decidedly monogamous to the most committed polyamorists. We welcome people representing every sexual preference, gender expression, and body type. None of us are getting free until we all get free.
»»» Connect on Plura
Want to see who's going, match, chat, and meet the community? Check out the event on Plura Community (FKA Bloom)
»»» Sing Before We Vibe
Sing Before We Vibe is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested! VIBE is a BIPOC only event, however friends and allies are welcome to join us for this meetup.
»»» PAL System
Bonobo's with active memberships do not need a PAL. Every other guest will have to be accompanied by at least one PAL (Pervy Activity Liaison). A PAL is not necessarily a date, but it is someone who will have your back for the night and you will have theirs. It's also the PAL's responsibility to hold one another accountable to the norms the space we're creating together. You must arrive at the party together and leave the party together. So for instance, if one person is asked to leave for any reason, their PAL(s) must leave with them.
»»» Volunteering
Volunteering is a great way to meet other Bonobos, and volunteer tickets have discounts baked into them as a thank you for your contribution.
Available roles include:
Pre-Party
Setup (Saturday 5pm - 7pm Pre-party) [$30 ticket]
During Party
Food Support (90 minutes at the beginning of the party) [$30 ticket]
Greeting (90 minute shifts before and during party) [$40 ticket]
Angel Crew (60 minute shifts during party) [$40 ticket]
Cleaning (60 minute shifts during party) [$40 ticket]
Post-Party
Strike (2 hours Post-Party) [$20 ticket]
You will receive an email with more details about your role and shift the day before the party.
»»» Covid Policy
We no longer have a vaccination policy. You can find our official Covid Policy here
Your COVID testing options are:
Present a timestamped photo of a covid rapid antigen test taken the day of the event at the door. (VASTLY PREFERRED OPTION)
Bring your own COVID test to take on site. If you use this option, please wear a mask into the venue. There will be a limited supply of rapid tests available for purchase - PLEASE BRING YOUR OWN.
Buy a COVID test at the time you buy your ticket or on-site.
If you need to take a covid test onsite, you must wear a mask.
»»» Incident Reporting
If your boundaries are crossed at the party, if a Bonobo member acts in ways that are not in accordance with our culture and values, or even if someone just kinda creeps you out, please report the incident to an angel or party host. We also encourage you to file an incident report online at http://bit.ly/bonoboincidentreport.
Incident reports aren't just for consent violations at Bonobo events. If people are behaving in the ways described above outside of parties, it can be helpful for organizers to know.
»»» Registration + Tickets
Tickets for our standard members will be on a sliding scale starting at $65.
Tickets will be on a sliding scale starting at $55 for PrimeMates, our premium members. [PRIMEMATE MEMBERS: You have a special code that you received when you became a member. Use that for your discount.]
Our Ticketing Pricing Policy - Updated 7.24.24
***NOTAFLOF Tickets - Action Required (see below)
As we continue to grow and create memorable experiences together, we want to share some important updates regarding the way we manage tickets for our events. Thank you for your feedback about access to tickets and creating ease around ticket transfers. We hope these changes provide a lot better user experience. We are also providing clearer guidelines about use of NOTOFLOF codes and a new request system for those who use those codes.
New Policy Changes:
We hear you loud and clear – tickets for our events have been selling out too fast, and many of you, especially our newer members, haven't had the chance to experience a Bonobo party yet. We're excited to announce some changes that we hope will give everyone a fairer shot at joining the fun.
Supporting Our Community: No One Turned Away for Lack Of Funds (NOTAFLOF) Changes
NOTAFLOF Codes by Request Only
Over the past few months, we’ve seen NOTAFLOF codes being shared and used in ways that hurt our ability to provide support to members experiencing financial hardship.
To maintain fairness and prevent misuse, we will be changing the codes for each party. Please email us at info@bonobonetwork.com before the event to request a NOTAFLOF discount code, no questions asked. You can then apply this code on the day of the ticket drop.
We are committed to inclusivity and accessibility. Our sliding scale ticket pricing remains in place to support those with financial hardship while allowing those with greater means to contribute more. This helps us uphold our No One Turned Away For Lack Of Funds (NOTAFLOF) policy. We would like to offer some examples of what code to use based on need.
25% Off: For those with moderate financial needs. Examples might include:
Individuals supporting a dependent.
Those with some medical expenses not covered by insurance.
Individuals who have periodic financial difficulties but can generally manage their expenses.
50% Off: For those with significant financial constraints. Examples might include:
Individuals with significant debt or loans.
Those who receive public assistance or unemployment benefits.
People with substantial immigration-related expenses.
75% Off: For those with severe financial hardship. Examples might include:
Single parents or guardians with no additional financial support.
Those with limited income or support.
Individuals with large, ongoing medical expenses or disabilities.
Unpaid community organizers with no disposable income.
We are experimenting with a prototype waitlist system. Before requesting a refund, please check the waitlist to see if someone else can take your spot.
While we are working on a better system, we will use a spreadsheet for the waitlist. You can find the link to the waitlist spreadsheet in the Eventbrite event description.
We also want to extend our gratitude to the community members who have been managing this on their own for the last few parties. Your efforts have been invaluable, and we are thrilled to implement a more formal process on our end. We’re also grateful to the handful of community members that are currently volunteering their time to help us design a better waitlist!
Please use the waitlist spreadsheet to sell your ticket, including volunteer tickets. Our Volunteer No Show Policy is now in effect for all parties
Ticket transfers: You can update the info on eventbrite yourself or email info@bonobonetwork.com with the new ticket holder first and last name, email address and phone number. If transferring after final details email and volunteer emails have come out, please forward these communications
Refund Policy:
We are still working on the details of our official refund policy, including the specifics of our Covid refund policy. Stay tuned for more updates soon.
Thank you for being a part of our community and for your understanding as we experiment and implement these changes.
»»» Bonobo Network Principles
What began as a series of small parties in Summer 2010 has grown into a community that has served 3,000 people around the Bay Area and the world. Our community is united by the following principles, which inform how we orient towards the spaces we share and how we treat one another:
High Possibility, Low Expectation: Our communities are best when they're treated as high possibility, low expectation spaces. That means two things: first, that all kinds of awesome sexy interactions are possible, but that no one should be expected to interact with you in any particular way. No one owes you anything. Second, we often attend these events with an expectation of the type or quality of experience we should have. While anything is possible, you'll probably have a much better experience if you lose those expectations of yourself and open yourself up to the abundance of connection of all kinds available to you at the party. Low expectation DOES NOT mean "low desire" – we believe it's helpful to have a well-explored and articulated sense of what you want and to hold those desires lightly.
Trust and Integrity: Parties like ours are built on trust – that's what allows us to be as open and welcoming and vulnerable as we can be inside those spaces. But this requires that we all show up in full integrity, pledging to be our most trustworthy. Three important implications of this : keep the identities of folks at our events confidential, proactively disclose relevant safer sex risks, and take exquisite care of the venues, spaces, and neighborhood ecosystems that host us.
Consent: We agree that we will only physically engage with one another, including nonsexual touch, where there is CLEAR CONSENT. We define consent as an ongoing collaboration between two or more people in constant verbal, physical, and emotional dialogue about what each other needs to safely, willingly, and pleasurably interact with one another. Gold standard consent in Bonobo Network is affirmative, informed, unpressured, specific, competently given, and ongoing. Respecting and valuing consent isn't just about preventing violations that shred trust -- it's also about making sure that everyone has as much space as they need to fully occupy their yes. Please read our Consent and Accountability Policy (https://bit.ly/bonoboconsentpolicy) for more details on how we approach consent and accountability.
High Challenge, High Support: Play parties can be challenging and emotionally complex, even for seasoned veterans. We’re committed to making the play parties we throw high challenge, high support environments. We come together to celebrate and play at our edges. To fully support that endeavor, we provide a dedicated nonsexual space at each party for folks who need to get away from the intensity of the gathering. It means recruiting a team of angels who are available to provide counseling and social support throughout the party. And it means encouraging everyone who attends to commit to being an angel for everyone around them.
Here's a guide to have a pre-party conversation with your sweetie(s) to make your party go smoothly for both of you: https://bit.ly/beingpartyready
Everyone Contributes: Parties like this are never the work of a single organizer -- it takes the participation and contribution of a host of people. Everyone who attends is expected to co-create the party: money, time, energy, enthusiasm, work, intention, example, concern and/or awareness.
Inclusion: We are dedicated to fostering inclusion in our community. No matter your race, ethnicity, gender identity, or class background, we want everyone who participates in this community to understand that they belong here, and that they have as much of a stake in what happens here as anyone else does. While we recognize that everyone is on a learning curve when it comes to learning how to foster such an atmosphere, we also commit to a stance of learning -- and supporting one another's learning -- of how to be excellent to one another.
This is a dynamic list, ever growing, changing, and deepening as this grand experiment in connection continues. Thanks to you all for playing mad scientist with us.
Sing before we VIBE (BIPOC Meetup)
Sing Before We VIBE!
February 20th, 2024, at 7:30 PM-9:30PM
Artichoke Basille's, 4799 Telegraph Ave, Oakland, CA 94609
Join us for a fun and casual social evening at Artichoke Basille's for a night of karaoke and good company before the VIBE Black and White Ball on November 2nd!
No cover or dress code required—just bring your best karaoke VIBE!
First time? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
This meetup is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested! VIBE Black and White Ball is a BIPOC only event, however friends and allies are welcome to join us for this meetup.
Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
What is VIBE?
Welcome to VIBE, a reimagined experience designed to create a space of celebration. VIBE stands for Versatile Inclusion, Bold Expressions, embodying a space where diversity thrives, creativity flourishes, and every voice is heard.
Versatile Inclusion: At VIBE, we embrace the rich tapestry of cultures, identities, and experiences that people of color bring to the table. Our events are crafted to be inclusive and welcoming, ensuring that everyone feels seen, valued, and respected. Whether you’re here to dance, connect, or simply be yourself, VIBE is your space to shine.
Bold Expressions: VIBE is all about celebrating the unique and powerful ways BIPOC express themselves. From vibrant performances and art showcases to dynamic discussions and interactive activities, our events are a platform for bold, unapologetic self-expression. We encourage you to bring your full self to the party and share your story with the world.
These exclusive parties are dedicated solely to BIPOC, providing a safe and empowering environment where folks of color can connect, celebrate, and express themselves freely.
Join us at VIBE, where every moment is an opportunity to connect, create, and celebrate the beauty of diversity. Let’s make every event a testament to the power of Versatile Inclusion and Bold Expressions.
For our purposes, we define "person of color" as people who have lived experiences as a racial minority in the United States. At least one birth parent was perceived and treated as a person of color, or would have been were they in the United States.
This party is for people with all levels of experience, from the merely curious or questioning to the most experienced swingers; from the decidedly monogamous to the most committed polyamorists. We welcome people representing every sexual preference, gender expression, and body type. None of us are getting free until we all get free.
Connect on Plura (FKA Bloom)
Want to see who's going, match, chat, and meet the community? https://plra.io/m/sing-before-we-vibe-022025
Bonobo Network Presents: Intergalactic LoveFest
Bonobo Network Presents: Intergalactic LoveFest
About this event
Prepare for Liftoff: Intergalactic LoveFest Awaits!
BREAKING: Scientists staffing the James Webb Space Telescope have discovered interstellar life – and these strange beings from distant worlds are coming to the planet Earth to consensually snatch our bodies!
On February 15, our planet will play host to aliens from across the known universe who are determined to prove to humanity that the big bang wasn’t a one-time occurrence.
Will you be on Team Humanity – Buck Rogers or Barbarella or Geordi LaForge, welcoming these visitors from another planet? Or will you perhaps join Team Extraterrestrial and phone home for extra anal probes?
Whichever team you back, you’ll share the same mission: making sure the Intergalactic LoveFest is the greatest party in the multiverse!
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
Foreplay for Bonobo presents: Intergalactic LoveFest
Foreplay for Bonobo presents: Intergalactic LoveFest
Hey Bonobos! Let’s raise a glass before we get our groove on together!
First time? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Foreplay is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland - 827 Washington St, Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Connect on Plura: https://plra.io/m/bonobo-foreplay-021125
🌿 Cluster* presents: Bug’s Life 🌿
🌿 Cluster* presents: Bug’s Life
🗓️ Date: Saturday, February 8th, 2025
📍 Location: Details revealed upon ticket purchase
🎟️ Tickets on Sale: Thursday, January 16th at 7pm
About this event
Let's get bugged out at Cluster* presents: Bug's Life! Where the tiniest party animals go big! Whether you’re a sultry butterfly, a daring dragonfly, or a glow-stick-loving firefly, this party will have you buzzing with excitement.
Get ready to dance through fields of fantasy, explore electrifying connections, and indulge in your wildest insect-inspired dreams. It’s not just a party; it’s an ecosystem of ecstasy. The hive is calling—don’t let this chance to get bugged out pass you by! 🐞✨
XOXO,
Your Hosts
What is Cluster
Created in collaboration with the Bonobo Network, Cluster* is our experimental testbed event that blends immersive art and sexuality together for the young non-monogamous community. Cluster is designed to be an immersive experience and party that you can play at, not itself a party focused on play. To support this creative process, we are moving Cluster to a bi-monthly cadence, announcing themes seasonally, and testing out a new endorsement process (see info below.
Cluster* age policy clarification:
If you are under the age of 40, you are good to go!
Guests over the age of 40 are welcome to join if they are the guest of a person under the age of 40.
Key leadership team members of the Bonobo Network may be over the age of 40.
This is a permeable boundary: No set of rules encompasses all situations. If you think you should be at a party for the young non-monogamous community, please reach out to us (cluster@bonobonetwork.com)
To contact Cluster Producers please email: cluster@bonobonetwork.com
This is a member’s only event. If you are interested in attending and learning more then join Bonobo Network here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply
GATHER... before we Cluster*
Let’s Gather before we Cluster!
Gather is Cluster’s meetup, it is a fantastic way for the young non-monogamous community to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested! This event is for 40 and under, however guest over the age of 40 are welcome to join as the guest of a person under 40.
First time? Want to know what it is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Don’t be afraid of these people they are naughty in the nicest ways… Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: they want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland - 827 Washington St, Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
CONNECT ON PLURA: https://plra.io/m/gather-020425
Bonobo Network Presents Kiss and Tell: A Sexy Second Bass Party
Bonobo Network presents: Kiss and Tell Second Bass
Saturday, February 1, 2025 7pm - 2:30am
TICKETS GO ON SALE THURSDAY JANUARY 9th at 7PM!
👉 Grab your tickets here:
Plura: https://plra.io/m/kissandtell-020125
Eventbrite: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1145067801619
Agenda
7:00 PM - 9:30 PM Doors open
NOTE: No entry after opening circle without permission from hosts. Email info@bonobonetwork.com if you think you may need to join late.
7:30 PM: Workshop: TBA
9:15 PM - 10:00 PM Opening Circle
10:00 PM: Daddie
11:30 PM: TBA
1:00 AM: DJ Playlist
2:00 AM - 2:30 AM Closing Circle
About this event
They say that dance is the vertical expression of horizontal desires. Guess we'll find out just how true that is.
At Kiss and Tell, your expressions of desire may need to stay clothed – barely – but they don't have to stay vertical. Take a break from dancing to sensuously snuggle with lovers old and new.
Unlike our full play parties, tickets are available to non-Bonobo members for this event. With lower stakes and intensity, It’s the perfect way to introduce your friends who are Bonobo-curious or nervous about play parties to our community.
Just remember that the party has "second base" limits on connection, which means you’ll need to keep your panties on. We'll get you all worked up with a bevy of sensual explorations, but you'll have to take the party home to go any further.
To make sure everyone feels safe enough to play at their edges, we don't allow any physical touch without clear consent. If you can't play by the rules, you may be asked to leave the party -- and that's no fun!
This is an alcohol-free event. We encourage you to limit intoxication so you can stay tuned in to the needs, boundaries, and desires of your fellow guests.
Make sure you're up on Bonobo party etiquette by watching this video: https://youtu.be/eCtnU0SCdSA?si=xAHd7u-oKLG0HSdm
Learn more about our consent framework at https://bonobonetwork.com/consent
If you are not yet a Bonobo Network member but you’re interested in joining you can learn more about us at https://bonobonetwork.com and apply for membership at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply. By joining you'll get access to all of our play parties and members only community events.
Please be sure to read ALL details below.
Your ticket confirmation email will contain ALL relevant details for attending this event TO ARRIVE THE DAY BEFORE THE EVENT. Check your email - including your spam folder. Please read this email in full and instruct any guests for whom you may have purchased tickets to do the same!
»»» Entertainment
Workshop: To be announced
Music:
Daddie - https://soundcloud.com/yesdaddie and https://soundcloud.com/holy_water
House Top:
Mx. Mayhemm - https://mxmayhemmai.com/
»»» Volunteer
Volunteering is a great way to meet other Bonobos, and volunteer tickets have discounts baked into them as a thank you for your contribution. Available roles include:
Pre-Party
Setup (Saturday 5pm - 7pm Pre-party) [$30 ticket]
During Party
Food Support (90 minutes at the beginning of the party) [$30 ticket]
Greeting (90 minute shifts before and during party) [$40 ticket]
Covid Testing Support ( 90 minute shifts before and during party) [$40 ticket]
Angel Crew (60 minute shifts during party) [$40 ticket]
Cleaning (60 minute shifts during party) [$40 ticket]
Post-Party
Strike (Sunday 11am - 1pm Post-Party) [$20 ticket]
»»» Inviting your friends
Want to invite a friend to this or future parties? Great! Bonobo Network membership is NOT required to attend Kiss And Tell. If they'd like to become a Bonobo member, you can invite them to learn more about us and apply at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply.
Your friends should FULLY understand Bonobo Network's culture, especially around consent.
They should be broadly familiar with their boundaries and be able to set boundaries with others.
They should be able to resolve conflicts gracefully, generously, and empathetically.
They're someone you trust to be accountable to you and to this community.
Ideally, you trust them implicitly, and you would either play with them yourself or recommend that your friends play with them at the party.
You would feel comfortable staking your reputation on their being a good fit for our community. (NOTE: This is different from feeling confident that they would enjoy themselves or get something out of the experience.)
»»» Covid Policy
We no longer require proof of vaccination. We do require a negative COVID test.
Your COVID testing options are:
Present a timestamped photo of a covid rapid antigen test or PCR/NAAT test taken the day of the event.
Present the results of a PCR or NAAT test administered within 24 hours of the party.
Bring your own COVID test to take on site. If you use this option, please wear a mask into the venue. There will be a limited supply of rapid tests available for purchase - PLEASE BRING YOUR OWN.
If you need to take a covid test onsite, you must bring a mask and wear it until your negative results are confirmed.
»»» Incident Reporting
If your boundaries are crossed at the party, if a Bonobo member acts in ways that are not in accordance with our culture and values, or even if someone just kinda creeps you out, please report the incident to an angel or party host. We also encourage you to file an incident report online at http://bit.ly/bonoboincidentreport.
Incident reports aren't just for consent violations at Bonobo events. If people are behaving in the ways described above outside of parties, it can be helpful for organizers to know.
»»» Registration + Tickets
Tickets for our standard members will be on a sliding scale starting at $65.
Tickets will be on a sliding scale starting at $55 for PrimeMates, our premium members. [PRIMEMATE MEMBERS: You have a special code that you received when you became a member. Use that for your discount.]
IMPORTANT!
If you're purchasing more than one ticket, please make sure each individual attending is named!
Once you purchase your ticket, your Ticket confirmation email will contain all relevant details for attending this event. Check your email - including your spam folder. Please read this email in full and instruct any guests for whom you may have purchased tickets to do the same!
»»» Our Ticketing Pricing Policy
***NOTAFLOF Tickets - Action Required (see below)
As we continue to grow and create memorable experiences together, we want to share some important updates regarding the way we manage tickets for our events. Thank you for your feedback about access to tickets and creating ease around ticket transfers. We hope these changes provide a lot better user experience. We are also providing clearer guidelines about use of NOTOFLOF codes and a new request system for those who use those codes.
NOTAFLOF Codes by Request Only
Over the past few months, we’ve seen NOTAFLOF codes being shared and used in ways that hurt our ability to provide support to members experiencing financial hardship.
To maintain fairness and prevent misuse, we will be changing the codes for each party. Please complete this form before the event to request a NOTAFLOF discount code, no questions asked. You can then apply this code on the day of the ticket drop.
We are committed to inclusivity and accessibility. Our sliding scale ticket pricing remains in place to support those with financial hardship while allowing those with greater means to contribute more. This helps us uphold our No One Turned Away For Lack Of Funds (NOTAFLOF) policy. We would like to offer some examples of what code to use based on need.
25% Off: For those with moderate financial needs. Examples might include:
Those with some medical expenses not covered by insurance.
Individuals who have periodic financial difficulties but can generally manage their expenses.
50% Off: For those with significant financial constraints. Examples might include:
Those who receive public assistance or unemployment benefits.
People with substantial immigration-related expenses.
75% Off: For those with severe financial hardship. Examples might include:
Those with limited income or support.
Individuals with large, ongoing medical expenses or disabilities.
Unpaid community organizers with no disposable income.
»»» Bonobo Network Principles
What began as a series of small parties in Summer 2010 has grown into a community that has served 3,000 people around the Bay Area and the world. Our community is united by the following principles, which inform how we orient towards the spaces we share and how we treat one another:
High Possibility, Low Expectation: Our communities are best when they're treated as high possibility, low expectation spaces. That means two things: first, that all kinds of awesome sexy interactions are possible, but that no one should be expected to interact with you in any particular way. No one owes you anything. Second, we often attend these events with an expectation of the type or quality of experience we should have. While anything is possible, you'll probably have a much better experience if you lose those expectations of yourself and open yourself up to the abundance of connection of all kinds available to you at the party. Low expectation DOES NOT mean "low desire" – we believe it's helpful to have a well-explored and articulated sense of what you want and to hold those desires lightly.
Trust and Integrity: Parties like ours are built on trust – that's what allows us to be as open and welcoming and vulnerable as we can be inside those spaces. But this requires that we all show up in full integrity, pledging to be our most trustworthy. Three important implications of this : keep the identities of folks at our events confidential, proactively disclose relevant safer sex risks, and take exquisite care of the venues, spaces, and neighborhood ecosystems that host us.
Consent: We agree that we will only physically engage with one another, including nonsexual touch, where there is CLEAR CONSENT. We define consent as an ongoing collaboration between two or more people in constant verbal, physical, and emotional dialogue about what each other needs to safely, willingly, and pleasurably interact with one another. Gold standard consent in Bonobo Network is affirmative, informed, unpressured, specific, competently given, and ongoing. Respecting and valuing consent isn't just about preventing violations that shred trust -- it's also about making sure that everyone has as much space as they need to fully occupy their yes. Please read our Consent and Accountability Policy (https://bit.ly/bonoboconsentpolicy) for more details on how we approach consent and accountability.
High Challenge, High Support: Play parties can be challenging and emotionally complex, even for seasoned veterans. We’re committed to making the play parties we throw high challenge, high support environments. We come together to celebrate and play at our edges. To fully support that endeavor, we provide a dedicated nonsexual space at each party for folks who need to get away from the intensity of the gathering. It means recruiting a team of angels who are available to provide counseling and social support throughout the party. And it means encouraging everyone who attends to commit to being an angel for everyone around them.
H ere's a guide to have a pre-party conversation with your sweetie(s) to make your party go smoothly for both of you: https://bit.ly/beingpartyready
Everyone Contributes: Parties like this are never the work of a single organizer -- it takes the participation and contribution of a host of people. Everyone who attends is expected to co-create the party: money, time, energy, enthusiasm, work, intention, example, concern and/or awareness.
Inclusion: We are dedicated to fostering inclusion in our community. No matter your race, ethnicity, gender identity, or class background, we want everyone who participates in this community to understand that they belong here, and that they have as much of a stake in what happens here as anyone else does. While we recognize that everyone is on a learning curve when it comes to learning how to foster such an atmosphere, we also commit to a stance of learning -- and supporting one another's learning -- of how to be excellent to one another.
This is a dynamic list, ever growing, changing, and deepening as this grand experiment in connection continues. Thanks to you all for playing mad scientist with us.
Foreplay for Kiss and Tell
Foreplay for Kiss and Tell
Hey Bonobos! Let’s raise a glass before we get our groove on together!
First time? Want to know what Bonobo Network is? Come on out, take a name tag, write out your pronouns, order some food and drinks and get to know your community even better. Feeling shy? Grab one of the hosts and we'll help you feel welcomed.
Foreplay is a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!
Please remember, though, that we're looking for people who'll be GREAT fits with our culture: we are looking for excellent people with sex-positive values who are committed to treating one another excellently: kindly, empathetically, consensually, inclusively, pleasurably, and supportively! They want to do sexy parties in community instead of in anonymity. They see the appeal in treating play parties as high possibility, low expectation spaces. They value consent. They're trustworthy. They are both supportive and supportable. Do you know these people? Because they're whom we want to see at the event.
What is Kiss and Tell?
Kiss and Tell is our new quarterly second bass party – a sexy, bottoms-on dance party driven by deep bass. This is an open to everyone event, and is another great chance to introduce curious friends to Bonobo Network.
CONNECT ON PLURA:
Kiss and Tell Event: https://plra.io/m/kissandtell-020125
Kiss and Tell Foreplay Event: https://plra.io/m/foreplay-kandt-012825
We will be meeting at District Oakland. Full bar with gourmet small plates served in a modern space.
District Oakland - 827 Washington St, Oakland, CA 94607
Can't wait to see all your lovely faces!
COVID safety: Please discuss your risk factors with each other as it pertains to covid. Physical contact and close proximity with explicit consent.
Come play with us!
Do you resonate with the above vision statement, principles and values? Bonobo is a membership-based community for people like you. Please fill out an application to join us here.